Endoh’s Dungeon

How many times have you been frowned at or criticized for not trusting your friends or your partner? How many times have nasty situations been placed upon your shoulders that it was YOU and YOUR DISTRUST that led to the falling out? Or worse, have you experienced the difficulties in having to trust a person by giving the benefit of doubt?

I come with the beliefs that many of us have gone through some sort of turmoil having to deal with trust. Just like depreciations of car, the value of trust seemed to be eroding away. It’s important, who doesn’t know? It will come one day, who doesn’t wants that? It takes time, who haven’t tasted the bitterness of waiting? It takes efforts, which victim has not tried?

There are so many different kind of people we have to deal with, and unfortunately some of us get a whole ton of people in our life expecting trust from us - when nothing’s done to earn the trust. If you love someone, you should trust him/her. It’s such a simple statement to write but the lifetime drive behind “TRUST” … is not just about love. If love can feed us all, then no efforts will be needed to earn trust from people around you. Easier said than done, isn’t it?

Trust is also such an abusive tool to be used against anyone. As I relate to close friends behind the scene, it’s often not the love that hurts but the distrust we have to deal with. Heaps of people walked into our lives, and go yakkety yak with “please, can’t you just trust me?” How many times have we come across this situation? Sounds pretty decent at this point, at least that’s how important trust is. But one thing many people failed to observe, the efforts to earn the trust far outweigh the purpose of trust.

We wished we could trust certain people. We wished to see realistic actions and not just being sugar-coated with words. We don’t want trust to be a liability, instead of a value built over time. We don’t want trust to be demanded so periodically, instead of taking the patience to earn it. Afterall, when the trust is broken and you want something/someone back… you will find that the distrust you have put into something or someone begin working against you like the Law of 3 Folds (Whatever you do in good or bad, will return to you 3 folds). What goes around, comes around. When one day you discovered life to be so hard because of the trust you have taken granted for like shopping in NTUC, I wondered if it’s appropriate to tell the person, “You only have yourself to blame…”

Ironically, we always discover the very same person who demanded the high level of trust in him/her to be the person we cannot trust the most. Or rather, it’s probably also the person whom have done the least to earn the trust. Trust - in an instance - is nothing more than just a lip service. For the more vicious victims, they would remind you again and again, be wary of retribution upon your next generation. Karma is very real.

A penny for your thoughts?